Single women tend to have this thought that once you are married with a husband, you have a date every Saturday night.
Us married women know differently.
Recently, I've felt rejected from my husband and other than feeling hurt, I'm confused what to do. You see, I have one of those wonderful jobs that gives me every other Friday off. He has one of those wonderful consulting part-time jobs that allows him to set his own schedule. For the past couple years, we've enjoyed those days off together. Having a leisurely breakfast/lunch. Lounging around or running errands, together. We'd talk about how lucky we were and how little time some of our friends have together as a couple.
Last Friday off, he wanted to work and I asked him to spend half the day with me. He agreed, but seemed reluctant. Based on other events (him forgetting we had a sitter one night, blowing off his volunteering in our son's class, picking the kids up late from school every day, etc.), several days later I broke down in tears and told him I thought his priorities were wrong and that we were going to be around a lot longer than his job. He remained mostly silent.
This Friday off, I remained silent and he went off to work. Coming to say goodbye only to confirm that I would pick up the kids.
It really hurts that work is more important, that he'd rather be there than with me.
It makes me wonder where our marriage is going and what I should do.
I don't want to beg someone to be with me if he doesn't want to be with me.
Maybe I need to just back off and find my own things for a while, let him miss me, but what if he doesn't?